We’ve all encountered the phrase, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Despite our awareness that this isn’t entirely true, we sometimes convince ourselves that other families are managing better when it comes to raising children. Looking through the tinted windows of their homes, we may envision children who are well-adjusted, high-achieving, free from problems, and joyfully transitioning through adolescence on their way to becoming exemplary teenagers and successful adults.
It’s time to dismiss that illusion. The reality tells a different story. Current statistics indicate that approximately one in five adolescents suffers from a diagnosable mental health condition, with about one-third displaying evident symptoms of depression. Tragically, many of these individuals do not receive treatment, as their symptoms often go unnoticed and undiagnosed.
While you’re contemplating that “greener grass,” take a moment to observe your surroundings: one in five families may actually be grappling with a teen struggling with depression, anxiety, self-harm, substance abuse, or behaviors such as anger and withdrawal. In every classroom at your child’s school, there are likely five or six students exhibiting symptoms of depression.
If neglected, mental health challenges can lead to a cascade of other issues, including poor academic performance, conflicts with loved ones, substance misuse, fractured relationships, and even legal troubles. Furthermore, untreated mental health conditions significantly increase the risk of suicide, which stands as the second leading cause of death among the youth in Texas.
This makes logical sense. Whether one is afflicted with a common cold or a serious mental health disorder such as clinical depression or severe anxiety, the capacity to handle the everyday demands of life can suffer greatly, affecting everything from simple tasks to the more challenging responsibilities of school and social interactions.
Consider another revealing statistic: nearly half of all psychiatric disorders emerge before the age of 14. Alarmingly, an average of nine years elapses from the onset of symptoms to the point when treatment is pursued. This is far too long. Ignoring and delaying action on signs of mental distress robs our children of their health, negatively impacting their development and learning during crucial formative years.
We have the ability to improve this situation. First, we must learn to identify signs of emotional and mental disorders just as readily as we recognize symptoms of physical ailments like the flu. Key indicators can include ongoing irritability, sadness, anger, social withdrawal, and substantial changes in eating or sleeping patterns. Children experiencing depression may frequently feel overwhelmed or fatigued and might withdraw from activities that once brought them joy. Other potential symptoms could manifest as persistent pain, headaches, or digestive issues.
When we observe such shifts in mood or behavior, it may be convenient to dismiss them as typical teenage changes or hormonal fluctuations. However, it is smarter to explore the possibility of an underlying issue and obtain a professional evaluation. Just like any other health condition, a consultation with a qualified expert is vital.
Sadly, the stigma surrounding mental health challenges often deters adolescents and their families from seeking the necessary help. This is unfortunate, given that depression is highly manageable. Through medication, therapy, or a combination of both, most people diagnosed with depression can find effective treatment.
Appropriate treatment initiated promptly after symptoms appear can significantly mitigate the effects of mental health disorders and equip adolescents with strategies to navigate life’s stressors and pressures.
Here’s the reality about that “greener grass”: every lawn encounters weeds and brown spots at times. However, with proper care, these issues can be addressed, restoring the grass to its former health. We should aim to provide the same level of care for our children.
To gain further insights into adolescent mental health and suicide prevention, visit www.GrantHalliburton.org.
How can I determine if my teen is experiencing depression?
Recognize the symptoms.
It’s not uncommon for teenagers and young adults to feel down or moody from time to time. Yet, when these feelings persist for several weeks, it may indicate a more serious issue. Depression is prevalent, affecting over 2 million young individuals. Here’s a rundown of symptoms that may suggest depression in a teenager:
Be aware of the signs:
- Frequent sadness or crying that doesn’t subside.
- Sensing guilt without a clear reason and feeling inadequate or losing self-esteem.
- A pervasive sense of hopelessness or a belief that nothing positive will happen again.
- Having a consistently negative outlook or feeling emotionally numb.
- Losing interest in activities once enjoyed—such as music, sports, socializing—and preferring solitude.
- Struggling with decision-making, memory issues, and difficulty concentrating.
- Experiencing increased irritability or heightened emotional reactions to minor annoyances.
- Changes in sleep habits, either excessive sleeping or insomnia.
- Altering eating patterns, whether through appetite loss or overeating.
- Resorting to drugs or alcohol for coping.
- Experiencing chronic physical discomfort like aches or pains without a clear medical cause.
- Feeling persistently restless or fatigued.
- Having thoughts of death or suicide.
Understand how to respond.
- Seek professional guidance. Don’t hesitate to act; waiting for depression to alleviate on its own can be detrimental.
- Consult a physician. A doctor can rule out physical conditions that might mimic depressive symptoms.
- Familiarize yourself with treatment options. The most effective approach typically involves medication, therapy, or both. Therapy can aid individuals in developing better problem-solving strategies and altering negative thought patterns.
- Commit to the treatment plan. Attend therapy appointments and maintain medication regimens, consulting a doctor before making any changes.
- Prioritize healthy living. Maintain a balanced diet, engage in physical activity, and ensure proper sleep.
- Engage in constructive activities.
- Keep a feelings journal. This can help identify triggers and effective coping strategies for depression.
- Reach out if having suicidal thoughts. For immediate support, call 800-273-8255 to talk to a trained counselor.
Need immediate assistance?
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or self-harm:
- Contact the 24-hour crisis hotline at 1-800-273-8255 for connections to local mental health resources.
- Call 911 or visit the nearest emergency department.
- Reach out to the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386, a confidential helpline dedicated to LGBTQ+ youth in crisis.
- Access the Here For Youth Crisis Intervention Resources Directory, a resource to help locate mental health services for children and teens in North Texas. www.granthalliburton.org/images/here-for-youth-directory.pdf
For additional information and resources:
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
www.dbsalliance.org
(800) 826-3632
Depression Screening
Click Here for MHA Screening Resources >>
Grant Halliburton Foundation
www.granthalliburton.org
(972) 744-9790
Half of Us
Online support for collegiate youth
www.halfofus.com
Mental Health America
www.nmha.org
(214) 871-2420
National Alliance on Mental Illness
www.nami.org
(214) 341-7133
National Institute of Mental Health
www.nimh.nih.gov
(866) 615-6464*
ULifeline
Online resource focused on college mental health
www.ulifeline.org
The Grant Halliburton Foundation
The Grant Halliburton Foundation was established in 2006 in memory of a talented Dallas artist and musician who struggled with depression and bipolar disorder before taking his own life at 19.
Committed to preventing similar tragedies, the foundation, launched by Grant Halliburton’s family, aims to prevent suicides, promote mental health awareness, and enhance the network of resources for teens and young adults.
The Foundation focuses on educating teens, young adults, parents, and professionals about mental health and suicide prevention; supporting young people and families dealing with mental illness; and coordinating efforts among community providers and stakeholders to strengthen support networks for these youth.
Some of the programs provided by the Foundation include:
- TAG, You’re It! An educational initiative that equips teens, school staff, and parents with the tools to identify and assist individuals in crisis. Over 6,000 North Texas youth and adults have participated in this program.
- When Life Hands You Teenagers. An annual educational conference designed for parents, educators, counselors, and those working with youth.
- Coffee Days and Dad2Dad. Free peer support groups for parents navigating the complexities of youth mental health, meeting monthly to share insights and support.
- I AM H·E·R·E Coalition. The only North Texas coalition dedicated solely to youth mental health, comprising over 50 organizations and individuals—including hospitals, agencies, law enforcement, and mental health professionals—collaborating on initiatives such as:
- Here For Youth, a forthcoming website featuring a searchable database of youth mental health resources in North Texas, launching in early 2015.
- The Living Room, a network of free peer support groups for teens with mental health challenges to connect and support each other.
- Windows to Hope, an annual conference aimed at empowering faith leaders to identify and assist youth in distress.
In short, the Foundation strives to enhance the well-being and save the lives of adolescents dealing with mental illness. For more details, visit www.GrantHalliburton.org.