The Significance of Family Traditions
by Kristin Cicciarelli | Contributor
This notion is undeniable, yet it’s not always easy when faced with children whose holiday wish lists seem endless and whose peers appear to be receiving all the latest gadgets. How can parents steer their kids toward understanding the values of giving versus receiving in a society that emphasizes materialism?
Mary Sanger, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the Founder/CEO of Insights Collaborative Therapy Group in Dallas, believes that establishing family traditions is key. “Traditions instill a sense of cultural or religious identity and legacy,” Sanger explains. “They convey a family’s core beliefs and values. Such practices also offer children a grounding reference point as they explore their own identities, fostering strong connections across generations. In a world driven by consumerism, traditions serve as a stabilizing influence.”
While children will certainly express desires for gifts, and it’s delightful to witness the joy of unwrapping presents, excessive indulging may lead to unrealistic expectations and diminished appreciation. Rather than overwhelming them with gifts, prioritize quality family time. “When families spend time together, it encourages kids to step beyond their own needs, build relationships, share enjoyment, and contribute to those they care about,” Sanger notes.
This year, encourage your children to shift their holiday focus towards togetherness and the cherished customs you can create or continue. You’ll undoubtedly forge unforgettable memories that resonate far beyond a fleeting video game.
Suggestions for Establishing New Family Traditions
• Salvation Army “Adopt an Angel” Tree – Community initiatives like this appear at shopping centers, schools, and places of worship after Thanksgiving. Plan a date for your family to choose an ornament and shop collectively for a child in need.
• Family Reading Night – Select a night where everyone gathers to enjoy a holiday-themed book or passage read aloud. Rotate the reading responsibility each year, and make sure to include hot chocolate, marshmallows, and perhaps a cozy fire.
• Get Involved – Participate in charitable activities, whether it involves baking treats for a cause, volunteering at a shelter, or collecting monetary donations. Involving your children in these efforts is a powerful teaching tool.
• Decorate Together – Just because teenagers and preteens may have busy social lives doesn’t mean parents should tackle all holiday decorating solo. Kids appreciate contributing to the festive atmosphere, so make decorating a family affair.
• Culinary Traditions – Food can beautifully highlight familial heritage and cultural customs or simply provide an occasion to gather for special meals. Whether it’s Grandma’s cherished biscuit recipe or a special takeout from a favorite restaurant, serving up something unique will give everyone something to anticipate during the holidays.
